It’s Not Too Late for a U-TurnBy Arlene Pellicane at For the Family

May 29, 2015

I came across this article and fount it interesting! Thought there were many out there it would be of value to! Read on…

I was waiting at a red light to turn into my community. An 18-wheeler with shiny silver sides was humming in front of me. When the light turned green, instead of turning, this giant truck did a U-turn.

I watched from my car with my mouth wide open.

Would he make it?

I didn’t know trucks that large could make U-turns in that intersection, but I saw it happen with my very own eyes. The driver accomplished his swift U-turn on the first try, without running over the fire hydrant, trees or sidewalks.

It reminded me that it’s always possible to make a U-turn when we’ve gone the wrong direction in life. Maybe sometimes it seems like it’s too late to change our course, or that a problem is much too large to turn around.

But if that huge truck could snake around and make a U-turn, believe me, with God’s help, you can too.

Maybe you have words that you need to apologize about.

Maybe you’ve gotten into a bad habit of falling asleep with the TV on instead of cuddling up to your spouse.

Maybe it’s been awhile since you said a prayer for your spouse or your kids.

Take heart – it’s not too late for a U-turn.

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Marriage…Man & Woman


“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”” ~Genesis 2:18

God intended to create a helper for man as a companion and who was comparable to him, very similar to the animals which He had created and He told them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on the earth.” (Genesis 1:22)  Hence, the animals were made with helpers which were comparable to the male of the species.  Thus, the creation of Eve, the female of the species of man only made sense in order to 1. create a helper for man, 2. create a comparable companion for man, and 3. to create a mate for man in order to procreate and increase the species of man.  This which was done so that man could and would:

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” ~Genesis 2:24

That which God has joined, let man not separate!  (Matt 19:6; Mark 10:9)  The intent was that God desired man to procreate and increase the species; just as with the animals of the land, birds of the air, and the fish of the water.  Procreation cannot be accomplished by same sex couples.  This is not hate speech, nor is it fundamentalist theology, it is scientific fact!  Man cannot bring forth life with another man, nor can a woman do so with another woman.

Now we must keep in mind there are, in-fact, two forms of marriage:  One by law and the other by God.  The one based in law and statute is applicable to all people and, in my opinion, anyone can marry any other person they choose; based upon our laws, statutes, and both state & federal constitutions.  The marriage in the sight of God is a marriage is based upon the tenets of a moral law-giver.  These moral laws are spelled out within the confines of the biblical text.


The unfortunate and true fact is, that churches are, in this respect, extensions and agents of the state, when they perform a marriage; regardless of how they see themselves and in what capacity they consider themselves.  Each and every church, very few that are not, is a corporation which by definition is a fiction of the state within which they reside.  The pastor/minister fills out the Marriage License as a representative of the church.  The only reason a Marriage License is needed, in my opinion, is for government benefits when your spouse does die.  I often think we, as Christians, should go back to the Common Law Marriages of old, instead of the state sponsored marriages.  You can do them, and they are lawful, but most are concerned of the benefits.

marriage1You cannot classify my belief as hate speech if YOU take the opposite position and infer YOUR position to be free from hate!  You have your belief and I have mine, each of which is protected under the First Amendment to the US Constitution and various state constitutions.  However, all too often our Constitutionally protected rights are being abrogated by laws – which is not how you amen the constitution…but that is beyond the scope of this particular blog posting.

May God Richly Bless You All!

MK Murphy, PhD, DD

Marriage…the Final Frontier


And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  ~Genesis 2:23-24

Marriage, the final frontier, or institution, of man and woman, in-that, so very few marriages last anymore.  The divorce rate is sky high, and growing; men and women are treating marriage as if it is a disposable piece of equipment and right after something happens they are looking for the next newer model; and let us not forget the younger generation playing at being married and not wanting to be so, or have the responsibilities of it – thus, the increase of single parent families.  It is sad, really!

Marriage is, and always has been the institution in which God intended for us to maintain until our death, or the death of our spouse.  My wife and I have made it 30 years…surprisingly so to many, myself included.  Marriage is that one relationship in which we two should be spending much more time on, than we actually do.  But after the honeymoon is over, we all begin to take each other for granted.  Diminishing the marriage bond that we have, the vows we have taken, and minimizing our spouses.

We need to come to the reality of the fact that for our marriage to last any length of time, we need to place God in first place above all others in our lives!  For without God there would be no breath of life, and without the breath of life, there would be no two  to become one flesh!  Once we have gotten that straight in our minds we need to remember the fact by God’s grace and good wisdom we were able to choose our future spouse.  To do so takes a good long time of thinking and seeking God’s blessing and wisdom.  This person that we choose is to be with us until our, or their, last breath.  We need an extra dose of wisdom for such a task.  We are also in need of the ability to wait, placing our personal and immediate pleasures on the back burner.  As so many of us tend to jump into a relationship of marriage without ever cultivating the relationship of friendship.  Thus, basing our entire relationship upon one or two aspects of a multifaceted relationship.  In so doing, we sell ourselves, our families, and our spouses lives & relationships short of the goal of lifelong.


By selling ourselves and our spouses short in this relationship we will tend to create a relationship where certain things that should have been spoken will then be unspoken; and thus create a love-hate relationship or a prison relationship and will build up resentment along the way.  By doing so, a relationship is doomed to failure.  Everyone will be seeking a new partner for life, or shorter.  The thing each of us fails to remember, is that we tend to bring the same person, and habits, into the new relationship with us…which will create the same problems and finally the same result.  I know of, or have met, many who have been married more than two, three, or four times.

marriage3We tend to acquiesce and take the traditional vows to marriage, but much like a military oath, we have a bad habit of not taking the words very seriously.  But each word, as well as, and the entire vow has a very specific meaning and we should be very adept and aware of what we are saying.  According to James we must be careful of what we say, “But above all, my brethren, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath. But let your “Yes” be “Yes,” and your “No,” “No,” lest you fall into judgment.” (James 5:12)  We are placing blinders upon our eyes when we do not pay attention to the words that come from our mouths by way of the heart: ‘Or if a person swears, speaking thoughtlessly with his lips to do evil or to do good, whatever it is that a man may pronounce by an oath, and he is unaware of it—when he realizes it, then he shall be guilty in any of these matters. (Leviticus 5:4)

The traditional vow goes something like this:  ‘“I, (Sarah/James), take you (Sarah/James), to be my (wife/husband), to have and behold from this day on, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; until death do us part.’”  After a period of time everyone tends to forget the “better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health, love and cherish; until death do us part.”  I look around, see, read, and listen to the reports on the breaking down of the family unit, the traditional family, etc.  Only part of which is the initial relationship and the nonchalant mindset that each person places upon the vow and promise to each other.

marriage1The wedding band, the marital vow, and the love of Christ have two things in common:  1. Each has no end, and 2. All three are intended to be all encompassing of eternal love!  We are intended to place Christ at the head of the marriage and the man at the head of the relationship; however, this is not to mean that the woman has no say as the two are to be one.  The word of God should be the guiding factor within the marriage and be relied upon for decision making.  Just as throughout the bible where many leaders had not sought God’s wisdom and advice, they tended to make faulty decisions.  So, we should all take heed in such things and seek God’s Wisdom in all things; regardless of its perceived triviality!!

I would plead with you all to take your relationship with your spouse, or prospective spouse, very seriously.  You will live well and do well by cultivating that friendship throughout your entire lives.  Also, by acknowledging God as the head of and His word as the centerpiece for your marriage.  Your marriage is not a trivial thing, it is the second most important relationship in your lives – your relationship with God being the most important.

Seek First The Kingdom of God


But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”  ~Matthew 6:33-34

I recently purchased a Thompson Chain Reference Bible (NKJV) and while studying the bible (more specifically “Life’s Purpose,” Topical Guide Number 4181, I came across an interesting bit of information that I had not thought of, or even considered, before, as I was reading the Matthew Henry’s Commentary.

It is explained that this is a double argument against the sin of thoughtfulness in that we are to take no thought for our lives (the life of the body) for we have greater things to think of concerning the well being of our souls and our eternal happiness.  He further explains, it as the one needful thing (Luke 10:42), where Jesus had responded to Martha letting her know that Mary had chosen the more “needful thing” that should be of concern.  We should more appropriately employ our minds and energies to the kingdom of God and on God Himself.  Placing more energies into becoming more Christ-like during our time here on earth.  We should be more careful to please God rather than men and being so mindful of the things that are so worldly, thus making us duplicitous with respect to God and mammon, or money; we cause our own problems by causing a rift between us and God, because we try to share our mind part-time with God and the rest of the time with our wants, desires, goals, and wishes.

The sum and substance of our whole duty is to “seek first the kingdom of God.”  Our duty is to seek; to desire, pursue, and aim at these things; all of which lies within the pages of the word of God.  Matthew Henry’s Commentary equates the bible as the Constitution of the New Covenant between God and man, which makes good sense if you know your Constitution and the fact that it was the new covenant between man and his government.  We must mind heaven as our end, and holiness as our way.

“Let your care for your souls and another world take the place of all other cares: and let all the concerns of this life be made subordinate to those of the life to come: we must seek the things of Christ more than our own things; and if every they come in competition, we must remember to which we are to give the preference. “Seek these things first; first in thy days: let the morning of thy youth be dedicated to God” ~Matthew Henry’s Commentary (Matthew 6:33)

By seeking first the kingdom of God, and being earnest in your pledge God promises to not just give you what you seek (i.e., the kingdom of God) but also will add to  that all other things that are necessary.  In 2 Chronicles 1:11-12, Solomon only asked for wisdom but God had given him wealth, fame, and all things under the sun.


If we spent more time seeking the kingdom of God, we would probably have less problems overall throughout the world.  What are your thoughts?  I know I have plenty of time to reallocate to reading, studying, and spend more time learning something!  What about you?

May God Richly Bless You All!

MK Murphy, PhD, DD